Pula Love
Safety Guides
Practical, plain-language guidance for staying protected — tailored for the UK, Botswana, Zimbabwe, Zambia, South Africa and beyond.
Last updated: June 2026
Getting started safely
- Verify profiles before trusting them — look for consistency across photos and details.
- Share slowly: a first name and general area is plenty at first.
- Never share your home address, ID documents, bank details or full date of birth.
- Keep chats on Pula until you genuinely trust someone.
Communicating safely
- Genuine people are patient; pressure, urgency and secrecy are red flags.
- Be wary of anyone who quickly professes love, asks for money, or avoids video calls.
- Watch for stories that keep changing, or reasons they 'can't' meet or call.
- Trust your instincts — if something feels off, slow right down.
Meeting in person
- Always meet first in a busy, public place — daytime is best.
- Tell a friend where you're going, who with, and when you'll be back.
- Arrange your own transport there and back; keep your phone charged.
- It's okay to leave at any time, for any reason.
Cross-border relationships
- Understand visa realities before making plans — never pay someone for a 'visa'.
- Travel safely: keep copies of documents, tell family your itinerary.
- Respect cultural and family expectations on both sides.
- Take introductions to family at a pace that feels safe to you.
If something goes wrong
- Your safety comes first — if you're in immediate danger, contact local emergency services.
- Stop contact, block and report the person on Pula.
- Keep evidence: screenshots, messages, names.
- Tell someone you trust, and reach out to a support organisation below.
Local support contacts
Emergency numbers can change — always confirm the current local number. If you're in immediate danger, contact emergency services first.
United Kingdom
- Emergency: 999 · Non-emergency police: 101
- National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (24h)
- Samaritans (any distress): 116 123
South Africa
- Police emergency: 10111
- GBV Command Centre: 0800 428 428
Botswana
- Police emergency: 999 · Ambulance: 997
- Local gender-based-violence support — ask Pula for your nearest service
Zimbabwe
- Police emergency: 995 / 999
- Musasa (GBV support) — ask Pula for current contact details
Zambia
- Police emergency: 991 / 999
- Local one-stop GBV centres — ask Pula for your nearest service
